Breaking up is hard to do

Jennifer Aniston
Tackles Relationship Difficulties in Real Life – and On Screen

By Michele Fontanelli Arnett

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Jennifer Aniston knows a thing or two about breaking up — and not just because she’s headlining a new film called “The Break-Up.” Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that Aniston’s real life marriage to Hollywood heartthrob Brad Pitt ended last year. All the gossip rags have their own view on why the marriage crumbled — ‘Aniston didn’t want kids’ is a big one — but most agree infidelity played a large role. When rumors that Pitt was kanoodling with “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” co-star Angelina Jolie turned out to be true — in fact, the two just had a baby daughter, Shiloh — “Brangelina” was born and Aniston was baptized the victim. But Aniston in no way views herself that way. “Don’t feel sorry for me. Don’t make me your victim,” she told Vogue in its April issue. “I don’t want it. I’m so tired of being part of this sick, twisted Bermuda Triangle… All I can do is go on and live my life.”

With her “Friends” days well behind her, Aniston seems focused on big screen success — but she needs a hit. Though “Along Came Polly” and “Bruce Almighty” were smashes, solo comedic vehicles like “Rumor Has It” and the dramatic “Derailed”— unchartered territory for Aniston — flopped. It seems that Aniston has figured out that she needs a funny man to play off her funny girl, and thus, “The Break-Up.”

Co-starring Vince Vaughn, who’s also a coproducer and co-writer, “The Break-Up” depicts the disintegration of a relationship, and how the two people involved pick up the pieces and move on with their sanity intact. For Aniston, getting a script called “The Break- Up,” after all she’d endured with Pitt, was a bit of a surprise.

“When it came to me, at the time it came to me… Honestly, I thought they were kidding,” Aniston says. “I mean, it’s called ‘The Break- Up.’ But then I realized it was fantastically written, and it was smart and funny and real. Plus, I would be in Chicago for two months…” Aniston not only fell in love with the city — “the people are so kind there,” she says — but with her co-star as well.

“Chemistry is just one of those things that’s instant,” Vaughn says. “We were lucky. I knew right away, when were improvising and doing scenes with each other, that we had a great banter and a great rapport.”

Aniston attributes Vaughn’s participation as one of the major reasons she decided to do the film. Working with Vaughn “elevated me to a new level,” she says.

Vaughn agrees: “She came in, and had a lot of great ideas for the character. She really brought the character to a new level.” But is it any wonder that Aniston would have so much of herself to contribute? After all, in Vaughn’s words, “The Break-Up” really shows how, “if you don’t honor and appreciate a relationship, you can do damage to it.” Aniston certainly understands that.

“We believe in different things, I guess,” Aniston said, of her marriage to Pitt, in that now infamous September 2005 Vanity Fair cover story. “You can’t force a relationship, even if it’s your view of how you would like it to be conducted. Obviously, two people leave a relationship because there’s a different thought pattern happening.”

That viewpoint might just be why Vaughn says he always had Aniston in mind for his little romantic comedy with a twist.

“As we were writing the screenplay [for “The Break-Up”], she was the only person we had in mind,” Vaughn says. “Jennifer has a very genuine quality to her. There’s something about her that makes her very ‘rootable.’Audiences, and people in general, can really connect with her.”

Aniston herself admits the screenplay will “trigger a lot for people,” and that making the movie was somewhat “therapeutic.”

“I related to what all girls do, basically, in that you don’t speak up enough about what you want and need help with… until it bottles up and you explode,” she says. “I definitely related to that part of her, the part that didn’t speak what she needed.”

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Perhaps that’s true of her relationship with Pitt, but fans may never know the truth. Like her character in her latest film, though, the journey of “breaking up” will inevitable reveal new truths about life and love.

“I still feel so lucky to have experienced [my marriage],” Aniston told Vanity Fair last year. “I wouldn’t know what I know now if I hadn’t been married to Brad. I love Brad; I really love him. I will love him for the rest of my life. He’s a fantastic man. I don’t regret any of it, and I’m not going to beat myself up about it. We spent seven very intense years together; we taught each other a lot — about healing, about fun. We helped each other through a lot, and I really value that. It was a beautiful, complicated relationship. The sad thing, for me, is the way it’s been reduced to a Hollywood cliché — or maybe it’s just a human cliché. I have a lot of compassion for everyone going through this.” About her new film and how it relates to her own life, Aniston will only say that it’s “a truthful portrayal of a couple walking through a break-up.” Very guarded with the press, Aniston never lets the talk stray to Pitt. Even when discussing Vaughn, who’s she’s so obviously dating, she’ll only refer to him as a “good friend.”

But Aniston’s respect for Vaughn is clear: “He was never not there for me [during the shoot], because he was being ‘producer guy,’ she says. “He worked so hard on this… It meant the world to him. It’s like his baby.” And just like that, the discussion lands on babies again. But don’t go there with Aniston. Like anyone who’s endured a break-up, she’s learned her lesson.